The Power of the I!

The power of the I!

I-statements are used to help express yourself and tends to diminish the potential for arguments. In an I-statement, instead of focusing on the other person’s “faults”, we focus on our own feelings. For example, ‘I feel anxious when you don’t text me that you arrived safely at home’. This could easily lead to an altercation if you had just said, “you never text! You don’t care!”. I only use this as an example, but I’m sure for some of you, it may be very relatable.  Imagine another example, something a bit more relevant to social media and relationships today.

Jamie: “Do you like BooBoo123??? Why are you liking their picture??”

Jordan: “Relax! It’s just a picture!”

VS.

Jamie: “I feel hurt when you like BooBoo123’s pictures on Instagram”.

Jordan: “I’m sorry; I never meant to hurt you and didn’t realize that that hurt you”.

Again, these are just examples a ...

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The Art of Living (Book Review)

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Wow! It sounds cliché but it’s hard to describe this book in words! I rarely read books in one sitting, but on top of having a lot of time on my hands that day, it was amazing! 

The book is called “The Art of Living” and it is written by Zen master, Thich Nhat Hanh. He touches on so many important aspects in Buddhism and the importance of mindfulness. I would love to share my understanding about some points I found particularly interesting- I will do this by sharing excerpts or quotes.

Compassion is born from understanding suffering, and without understanding and compassion, we cannot be a happy person”.

This statement felt so powerful to me, especially as a clinician. I have been told that I am empathetic and can tune into and understand how people are feeling. I truly think this is a gift. But I could not provide the compassion that I do without my own suffering. Appreciation often comes from thin ...

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Kalief Browder and Solitary Confinement

I couldn't sleep last night- lately I have been a bookworm and have been reading a lot. I thought my dream (or more likely nightmare) traced back to one of my favorite books, "Just Mercy" by Bryan Stevenson but I do not recall if this segment was mentioned in that book (I do highly recommend it, though =D)!

Nonetheless, I dreamt of Kalief Browder- a 16 year old boy who was imprisoned for allegedly stealing a backpack and its contents (He was never convicted. His bail was $3000 which his family was unable to afford). He spent three years at Riker's Island and spent about 2 years of that time in solitary confinement- that is a 6 x 8 cedar-block room with only 1-2 hours of social contact with the prison staff. To restate, that is 22-23 hours on his own... in that tiny cell...for about TWO YEARS! The average size of a solitary confinement cell in the United States is 10 x 7. Have you ever been inside a r ...

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